Success is About Moving Forward

By Dr Darryl Cross
Leadership & Career Coach – Psychologist
Crossways Consulting
© Copyright 2009 Dr Darryl Cross

[This article was published in the Career One supplement
( to “The Advertiser,” Saturday, 4th April, 2009, Page 16]

Frank came into my office quite downcast and forlorn. This was the first time in his whole career that he’s been without a job. He had been retrenched 8 weeks ago. And he didn’t see it coming. It was a shock to him and his family. He was beating up on himself for “not seeing the writing on the wall,” and now he was feeling embarrassed that he was unemployed.

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Therapeutically, I observe that for the major crises in our life like retrenchment, redundancy as well as things like divorce and death, it takes between two to four years to get over something like that psychologically and emotionally before we are able to move on. Some people though,keep on blaming, feeling hard done by, feeling resentful and they do not move on. They are negative. They see themselves as victims. No-one has had it as bad as them. They tend to indulge in self-pity and they generally like all those around them to know about it too. They become stuck in their past.

Successful people manage to work through their crises, whatever they might be, and put it behind them. They find the strength to put it all in perspective and they use their energies to move forward rather than be tied up in the past and bemoaning their woes.

Those who are successful know that life isn’t always fair. As the bumper sticker says, “Stuff Happens.” And sometimes it’s not fair. There are setbacks, difficulties do arise and at times, catastrophe strikes. Successful people have setbacks just like anyone else. Successful people grieve and feel angry, frustrated and disappointed like everyone else does. The point of difference though is that they do not remain in that emotional state. Although they certainly do see problems as problems and difficulties as difficulties and mistakes as mistakes, they have the ability to then turn around their attitude and see the problem as an opportunity or the difficulty as a challenge or the mistake as a learning experience. This in no way is just a play on words. It’s about attitude and that is a defining characteristic between those who are successful and those who seem to struggle. It is a key to success.

You have heard the old adage, “is the cup half empty or is the cup half full?” Successful people have a tendency to see the cup as more full than empty. As I have said in a number of talks that I have given on success, there are always two sides to a coin. Two sides to any coin. It is the same coin, but which side do you choose to look at?

In other words, if you have a problem or an issue, which attitude or perspective do you wish to take? It all depends on how you look at it. Successful people make a conscious decision to have an attitude or perspective for any issue or difficulty that means they get on with the business of fixing the problem or somehow rectifying it or even working around it rather than becoming bogged down or somehow wallowing in it all and feeling overwhelmed.

Interestingly too, successful people may not always know exactly how they will fix a particular issue or problem, but they take it a step at a time and if that does not work, they tweak it again and try something else a step at a time.

I like the saying that says, “life rewards action.” Successful people always take action. It may not always be the correct action in the first instance, but they recognise that they have the ability to change their steps and alter their course, if at any time, whatever they are doing does not seem to be working.

Success is about moving forward and being prepared to change course if necessary and successful people are very good about doing just that.

[Dr Darryl Cross is a clinical and organisational psychologist as well as a credentialed executive and personal coach. He is also an author, international speaker and university lecturer. Dr Darryl is about assisting people to find their strengths and reach their goals. Further information on Dr Darryl can be seen at ]